Repeat after me: I am determined.
Mom always told me that positive words lead to a positive life. As corny as it sounds, I think she’s right. As I look back on events in my life, I realized that all the times I was worried about something bad happening or even said the words, it actually happened.
For example, It happened when I was concerned about not doing well on tests in college and then again in recent years when I was adamant about not having multiple god parents for my son. On the contrary, the opposite happened when I was kind to myself and told myself that something good was right after the horizon. I’ll never forget being nervous about ending my contract writing for a small online publication, but telling myself that something better would come along. I was right, because less than a week a later I was contacted to contribute regularly to the now defunct Sister 2 Sister magazine.
Perhaps, it was a coincidence but I like to believe the daily mantras I told myself and never losing hope, led to that opportunity.
Bottom line is we really do shape our lives with our choice of words, that’s why I do everything in my power to make sure they are terrific words. . We are such unique and powerful creatures that the energy we put out can be manifested in our lives.
I always tell those around me to be careful what you say to yourself. What you say to yourself, whether good or bad, has way more impact than what others may say to us. You are always in your head. That means you can either be your own best friend or your own worst enemy.
Not sure which you are? Take a moment to jot down the thoughts that run through your head and what you say to yourself on a daily basis. Do that for a day and than reflect on it. Do you say more good things to yourself than bad? What aspects of your life lead to the most negative thoughts and phrases about yourself? Once you identify those areas, you can flip it and turn them into terrific words. For example, I usually say something negative to myself when I don’t finish my to do list. It usually sounds something like this, “I feel guilty because I got absolutely nothing done today. All I do is waste time,” However, once I started saying the following: “I’m proud of what I accomplished today,” I actually did start finishing more of my to-do list. Sometimes all it takes is a mind shift.
And yes, I know that just saying stuff aloud and being nice to yourself doesn’t create change. Action creates change. However, that action all starts with what you say to yourself. You need to shape your mind to be kind to yourself and say the positive things that will lead to the life you’ve already imagined. That’s why I tell myself everyday, three times a day, “I attract opportunities and money is constantly flowing towards me.”
I understand that for someone people it’s challenging to suddenly come up with good things to say to themselves. I also understand that it may be intimidating or embarrassing to suddenly start talking to yourself aloud especially when in public. So for just thirty days, I’d like you to join me in saying the following affirmations to keep your motivation. Print this out, post it in a prominent place in your home or at work and say the affirmations each day. I like to set three alarms on my phone at different times a day(7:00 am, 1:30 pm and 9:00 pm) to remind myself it’s time to talk to myself. If you are anything like me, you’ll soon feel more motivated and hopeful about the days ahead. Here’s to your first month of living your best life.
How often do you practice saying terrific words to yourself? Do you often feel better after doing so?
TerrificWords: If you can’t say anything nice about yourself, practice.